Healthy self-esteem is the thing that protects us from the various hardships of the world. It’s what gives us the strength to pick ourselves up with renewed confidence whenever life knocks us down and sets us back. Encouraging the development of your child’s self-esteem is vital if they are to learn to negotiate conflicts and handle negative influences as they grow.

What is self-esteem?

Children with healthy self-esteem are more likely to have a realistic grasp of their own strengths and weakness, and will be able to use this knowledge to make the most of every opportunity. They will feel capable, laugh readily and have an overall positive approach to life, their future and the people around them.

If your child’s self-esteem is low, they may find even everyday challenges extremely frustrating. They may often feel anxious about making mistakes and will worry about what might happen if something doesn’t go according to plan. They may have a tendency to have self-critical thoughts such as “I can’t do it” or “I’m not good enough.” This can make them seem withdrawn and reluctant to try new things.

Plant positive seeds of self-esteem in your child

Johneal Rouse is an experienced Transpersonal Hypnotherapist and Master NLP Practitioner based in South London. His aim is to teach his clients how to resolve challenges and move forward confidently with their lives. By tapping in to the workings of the subconscious mind, he says that his focus is on creating positive, noticeable shifts in habitual behaviours and the way people relate to themselves.

“Young people are the heart centred and conscious leaders of tomorrow,” says Rouse. “I want to ensure they are fully equipped to deal with what is thrown their way.”

To help encourage children towards a positive outlook and strong coping skills, Rouse recommends these four simple steps as a great starting point to building your child’s self-esteem.

4 simple steps towards boosting your child’s self-esteem

  1. Let your child know he or she is inherently worthy and lovable – this is not based on their doing things right or the way you want them done.
  1. Encourage your child to develop a vision for what he or she prefers. To believe in themselves, as opposed to being at the effect of what others say and do.
  1. Be attentive to your own self talk and choose to release what doesn’t serve you.
  1. Appreciate and nurture your child’s uniqueness. Choose to become present to your child’s innate wisdom, innocence, talents and gifts.