By CJ’s Fitbumps

Who am I?  Why am I here?  These are questions that have been asked by millions throughout the ages and are asked to help an individual identify their purpose or find clarity in life.  Especially as a busy mum juggling so many hats you can easily find yourself disconnected from who you are.

Are you the career woman, mum, housekeeper, lover, friend, partner?  The answer is yes, you are all of these and much more.  When you have all of these roles to play it can be hard to remember what makes you happy and you can lose confidence in your ability when rushing around constantly.

Who am I now, and what am I doing?

Do you ever find yourself wishing you had a character trait, feature or something that someone else has?  Do you find that you beat yourself up because you feel you are not as good as the next person?  If so, then it is time to stop!

During these times of self-doubt it is essential to stay focused on what you want and think head down bum up!  The key to anything is perseverance.  I love the film Finding Nemo when Dory sings “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming.”  Those who have found success with anything in their life are generally the ones who have refused to give up at the first hurdle.

Connecting back to you: finding your happiness

Rebuilding your self-confidence

Should you be struggling with increasing your self confidence or have doubt in your abilities, try to focus on small improvements that you are making in any or all areas of life.  Keep a journal or a log so you can reflect and review progressions so that during times of feeling low you are able to reach for your inspiration and motivation that aids in overcoming negative thoughts and feelings.

It is essential to switch on positive internal dialogue as this speaks to every cell in your body – I truly believe in the law of attraction and whatever you project internally is what is attracted externally.

The first step in ensuring you know how to be your best is to identify who you are.  What are your values, what motivates you and what do you want.  Simply look at how you spend most of your time, most of your money and who you are with most of the time to see how you are currently living.  Check that these habits are productive to what you truly dream for.  If something doesn’t feel right then listen to your intuition and make necessary changes.  On the days that you find it tough and feel like throwing in the towel, then remember your reason for doing it and do it for your children.

Author CJ’s Fitbumps  CJ is a pre and postnatal holistic health coach, group exercise instructor, personal trainer, nutrition expert and author of The Winning Physique. She provides specialist pre and post natal fitness classes and coaching at Riverside Ice and Leisure as well as offers one to one personalised health coaching programs lifestyle consultations and personal training. Find me at, email me via or call me 07557683770.