Are you considering a digital detox?
When lockdown started we tinkered with the idea of allowing the children to have more time on their screens than usual. However, I know from personal experience with five children, that the more time they have on screen, the more they become disengaged, distracted and anxious. I’ve been there…asking the boys to stop playing the never-ending Xbox when dinner is ready….finding them hiding a screen under their pillow before bedtime. Nothing has surprised me.
Yes, it’s easy to plug them into the instant virtual baby-sitter when you’re working from home, cleaning the never-ending pile of washing up, preparing endless lunches and dinners etc, but without boundaries and set times for screen-use, everything goes pear-shaped.
So, we sat down with all the kids and had a conversation about acceptable use of electronics. During the school week we agreed that one hour a day was plenty.
Some people have gasped when I’ve shared our routine and asked how we’ve coped? Simple. The kids each set a timer and when it goes off, the screen goes off. They know these are the rules, as we’ve previously agreed them.
Personally I like it when the kids say they are bored. It gives them an opportunity to work things out for themselves, rather than constantly being entertained and plugged in.
I’ve actively been involved in digital detox too. There are no phones at the table when we are chatting and eating. No phones when everyone is in the living room watching a film.
I purposefully put my phone down, talk and listen to the kids when we’re in each other’s space. This makes me more present and in the moment. I don’t want our children to feel like they’re not being listened to.
Remember, you are the parent and you get to decide what’s best for your children and teach them skills that will help them live happy and fulfilled lives.
Author: Tasha Thor-Straten
Tasha is a Parenting Coach, step-mum to 3 children and mum to 2. She helps parents create happy families, regardless of circumstances, unhelpful behaviour of others, teenage tantrums, toxic relationships and parenting style differences.
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